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Why is it so hard to love ourselves

Updated: Feb 9, 2023

If you are reading this then I am sure you like me are wandering why it is so hard to love ourselves. I spent a lifetime finding every single fault inside me.

I am not good looking enough, smart enough , thin enough, strong enough, sexy enough. You name it and I would find fault in that. Nothing is ever perfect.

Why are we so hard on ourselves ? if a friend came to us looking for advice we are often very kind and gentle to them, offering them love and encouragement but when it comes to us we are super critical. We are never good enough for ourselves.

The truth is we are perfect just the way we are, we were born this way. We are unique in our own way, there is not another person like us. its really not fair to compare ourselves with anyone else because its never an equal comparison. No two people are alike so how can we even compare. Its like comparing a fish to see how high it can climb a mountain or comparing a mountain goat to see how well it swims in the ocean. Can we stop this comparison and own our uniqueness. Be who we truly are and just excel in that, not trying to be like anyone else. Can we constantly reminding ourselves that we are unique and we are perfect just the way we are.

I know its not easy to change the years of conditioning but it does happen.

Just like training any other muscle in our body this too needs some training.

working on self love everyday we can truly own our uniqueness and accept life in its unique flavor just for us.

if you would like to work on self love with me, please feel free to reach out. I am offering private coaching using mirror work, loving touch and other healing meditations to continue to make a deeper bond with ourselves to love and accept ourselves little bit more everyday.

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This is such a new concept for me. I have spent a huge amount of my life loathing myself. Could this be why I've been so isolated for so long ?

René Cook
René Cook

Its really a process to love and accept ourselves just the way we are. Standing in front of the mirror and saying I love you to myself was a huge deal for me. I started doing naked yoga primarily to let go of the shame I felt within me. you can do it. we can can help;

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